In this post I will give you 4 tips on how to get centered so you can feel more in control of your life and experience more flow and a sense of being more grounded.
If you want to feel more productive, effective and happier, and you are tired of your head being all over the place, today I will share what I have learned from some of the worlds top experts on this subject. So, lets get started.
Hold Your Neurovascular points. If you are feeling particularly scattered or over emotional at any particular time and you have 5-10 minutes to sit in a quiet place, this exercise works well. Take 3 fingers from each hand and place your finger tips on your forehead just above your eyebrows. It is the place on your forehead where you’ll feel a little dip in your skull -approximately 2cm above your eyebrows. Press your finger tips in firmly enough that you can feel a slight pulse underneath your fingers.
Hold it until pulse feels even between your fingers
At first, you might feel the pulse to a bit wire-ry and uneven, but as you leave the fingers there for a few minutes you will begin to feel the blood pulse underneath your fingers in a more even way, and it will begin to feel a little stronger. Hold your fingers here for as long as it takes to feel that even flow of blood underneath your fingers. What is happening here is the blood flow is becoming more balanced between the right and left hemispheres of your brain leading you to feel like you can think a little more clearly and your nervous system has shifted into more of a relaxed state so chaotic emotions or thoughts have a better chance of settling down. This is a good exercise to do regularly because it is training your nervous system and therefore body and mind to be more centered as a habit, and you are less likely to react to events and situations as much as you otherwise would have.
Meridian Tapping-do the 4 thumps. This tapping exercise activates the organs and meridians which have a correlation with feeling more grounded and awake in the moment.
You can do this exercise in 10-15 seconds. First of all tap firmly on your cheek bones just under your eyes about 5-7 times. This is one of the stomach meridian points. Next, tap the points just under your collar bone. First find the bony notches on your collar bone, then move about 2cm down, and then 2cm out. There is a point that has a little fleshy dip, and this is the next point you want to tap for 5-7 times. This is associated with the kidney meridian. Next is the area around the thymus which is about the center of your chest, -and then tap the spleen points which are located directly under the nipples on the bra line and then 3 cm out from the side.
Tip # 3:
The most part, feeling centered starts in the morning. You set the tone of your day by what you decide to do -or don’t do-in the morning. Each day we are gifted with new possibilities, but most the time we don’t take advantage of this because we are running from our habits and habitual way of thinking. You may even have tried to change your morning routine, such as deciding to exercise or do some meditation but lost momentum and went back to what you were doing previously which resulted in your feeling like a failure.
Positive affirmations ususally don’t work
You may have even tried positive affirmations telling yourself that you are calm, you are relaxed which may have helped a little, but you didn’t find them to be that useful over all and decided they were ‘not for you’. There is no doubt it can be challenging to change our habits, because our brains are wired to keep us safe and any change we try to make can be perceived by our brains as a threat to our survival simply because it is unfamiliar to our nervous system. So, first of all-ask yourself what activity you would you do on a daily basis that you know would result in feeling more centered for the rest of the day. Would you be meditating? Exercising? Making a list of things to do for the day? Looking over your schedule and prioritising what the top 3 things to do are? Writing in a journal? Or something else? Different things work for different people. It is important that you first get clear on whatever that thing for you would be. For me personally, if I meditate or exercise first thing in the morning before I do ANYTHING else, it changes the quality of the rest of my day.
Tip # 4
Once you are clear on the thing you would be doing first thing in the morning, the key to making that thing a routine and a habit is to start associating that action with more pleasure than pain. What do I mean by that? Well, as I was saying before, our brains are wired to keep us safe and any change to our normal routine can be perceived by our brains as a threat, so we are more likely to continue familiar habits even if they don’t serve us. This is one of the reasons it can feel so hard to change. So the way to help rewire your brain for a new habit is to consciously see yourself in your mind doing the thing you want to be doing AND tell yourself that you really like doing that thing.
So for example, lets say you want to begin a morning mediation practice before you get into your day and you want to make that a habit. See yourself-before you get out of bed in the morning-sitting in meditation and tell yourself-I really like this-I like the feeling of beginning my day in more of a calm way. I like watching my breath and feeling my body relax. I like feeling more centered as I begin my day. ‘ This is NOT a positive affirmation because it is not making unrealistic claims about your life which your subconscious mind will reject. For example telling yourself over and over again that you are rich and wealthy will result in failure when truthfully you know you are struggling to meet your monthly bills. This is because you can’t fool your mind about something that is simply not true. But when you make a positive suggestion to your brain—such as telling yourself you like to feel calm and your like to meditate because you know that it will help you feel centered, over time, your nervous system and brain will say-oh ok-you like this-so it is safe? How about we do more of this?
Do more of this consistently
The more you visualise and suggest to yourself that you like an activity the easier it will be to make the changes that you desire. Don’t spend a minute telling yourself it is too hard to change, because your brain will agree-it will say ‘yes!, it is hard isn’t it? Lets not change. As I said- our brains are wired to keep us safe and we are naturally inclined to move away from pain rather than move towards pleasure. As world renowned hypnotherapist Marisa Peer says-your mind only responds to two things: the pictures you make in your head and the words you speak both internally and externally.
So to recap-the most important thing to getting centered really starts at the beginning of your day. Once you have settled on a morning practice that you would like to implement to kick start your day in a positive way, you can then use the 4 thumps and holding the neurovascular points during the course of the day when you feel you have gotten ungrounded and want to re-center yourself. If you do this on a daily basis you will gradually find over time you are much more easily able to get centered on demand and feel like you generally have more control of your life. If you would like to take these tips further and explore some more free tips on how to get centered so you can feel more grounded, check out the link in the description box below for a free online masterclass with world renowned energy medicine practitioner Donna Eden. Also, be sure to subscribe to my channel for more tips on managing your day to day energy and please comment below and let me know what your chosen centering activity is at the beginning of the day.